Can I be independent and strong while still wanting to be taken care of ?

It’s an unspoken, nagging question for many strong and successful women.

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Most of the women that I know are intelligent, independent, conscious. We believe in the equality of all people and we highly value independence and sovereignty, that is, everyone’s own personal authority over themselves.⠀
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While we fiercely guard our independence and sovereignty, we may also deep down just want someone who will take care of us. Someone, I daresay, who will cherish and even worship us. These needs and values can appear to run counter to one another and create unresolved conflict for a lot of women.⠀
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How can I value myself as an independent and sovereign woman and still have this incredible yearning to be taken care of and cherished? ⠀
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It isn’t the paradox here that needs to be resolved. It won’t be resolved because it’s not supposed to be. It can’t be.⠀

The paradox is one of our most valuable spiritual possessions. Only the paradox comes anywhere near to comprehending the fullness of life. ~ Carl Jung

What we can do is find that place of tension in the paradox and dance in it. Breathe with it. Allow it. And discover what…